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How to Deal With Seasonal Depression

Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), a type of depression, is well-known for causing misery during the dark, cold days of winter, but it can also affect people in the summer. Summertime sadness, sometimes called summertime depression or reverse SAD, is caused by a disturbance in a person’s circadian rhythm, which determines a person’s sleep-wake cycle. For reasons we don’t fully understand yet, some people experience seasonal depression when the available amount of sunlight in their environment decreases or increases significantly.

Summertime SAD is much less well-understood than wintertime seasonal affective disorder. It’s important to note that people who develop wintertime SAD tend to not have summertime SAD. Although sunlight is a critical stimulus for the proper working of the body’s sleeping and waking system, we don’t fully understand why plentiful amounts of intense sunlight in summer can cause similar effects to its absence in winter, but in different people.

We do know that sunlight slows down the production of melatonin, a hormone necessary for sleep. Long days with lots of sunshine severely inhibits your body’s ability to produce melatonin. Although this shift in the amount of melatonin doesn’t cause problems for most people, for those with summertime SAD, it’s very disruptive.

However, scientists believe that just as some people experience SAD in winter when the weather forces people indoors and the short days are dark, some people are more likely to stay indoors in the summer, due to their extreme discomfort in the high heat of summer weather.

Are you SAD in the Summer?

Seasonal Affective Disorder, regardless of when it happens, is a type of depression. In fact, SAD is referred to in psychological diagnostics as major depressive disorder with a seasonal pattern. A person must experience depression emerging at the same time every year, along with all the other symptoms of depression, for at least two years. To make a correct diagnosis, it’s the pattern of depression symptoms, and when they emerge that’s critical in the case of SAD. That holds for wintertime and summer seasonal affective disorder.

About 1 percent of Americans have summertime SAD. Below are the common symptoms patients usually experience:

  1. Feelings of deep, unremitted sadness OR inexplicable anger and elevated levels of irritability
  2. Loss of appetite
  3. Trouble sleeping
  4. Weight loss or weight gain
  5. Increased and intrusive anxiety or persistent dread
  6. Feeling unmotivated to complete tasks or overwhelming feelings of apathy
  7. Pronounced lack of pleasure in the activities that you used to enjoy
  8. Feelings of guilt or repetitive thoughts about suicide, death or loss

Coping with Summertime SAD

The best approach to coping with summertime SAD involves therapy with a professional mental healthcare provider and the following activities.

  1. Stay in motion. Regular exercise helps the brain produce endorphins, natural pain killers, as well as serotonin, the neurochemical that regulates mood. Any exercise that puts you in motion for 20 to 30 minutes can measurably improve your mood. You can exercise indoors or outside in the early evening hours when temperatures are cooler.
  2. Get plenty of rest. This can be challenging, as all forms of depression disrupt sleep. However, be mindful of your sleep habits. Going to bed and getting up at the same time every day is helpful in keeping your circadian rhythm healthy.
  3. Don’t overdo dieting. Summer may be beach season, but fad diets that disrupt your intake of nutrients do much more harm than good. Stick to a healthy diet.
  4. Delegate responsibilities and avoid all the stress you can. When you know you’re going to be easily stressed out and frazzled, don’t hesitate to ask others for help.
  5. Go easy on vacation plans. Consider if you’re going on vacation for your pleasure or someone else’s happiness? It’s easy to get stressed over a vacation. After all, we put ourselves under a lot of pressure to have the best time possible. When you know your vacation is coming during a time of the year when you’re most vulnerable to depression, consider moving it.

If you have concerns about summertime seasonal affective disorder, speak with a mental healthcare professional. Some people find a slightly increased dose of their regular antidepressant to be helpful in cushioning the effects of seasonal affective disorder, while others find greater relief from alternative treatments that don’t require medication.

Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation for Depression

If you have depression that seems to follow a seasonal pattern, consider seeking professional assistance. There are many treatments for depression, including medication and psychotherapy. Alternative treatments, such as transcranial magnetic stimulation (TMS), are great options. TMS is a painless, non-invasive, medication-free treatment for depression A powerful and precise magnetic field is applied to an area of the brain that regulates mood, helping decrease the symptoms of depression. Many people experience no side effects and significant relief. TMS was approved for the treatment of depression by the FDA in 2008.

This blog post is meant to be educational in nature and does not replace the advice of a medical professional. See full disclaimer.

 

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How to Help Someone with Anxiety

Anyone can experience anxiety when faced with situations that generate worry or fear. While we’re all capable of having feelings of anxiety at certain moments during our lifetimes, it can become serious when it interferes with a person’s day-to-day routine for long periods of time. Approximately 18% of Americans suffer from anxiety disorder, making anxiety the most common mental illness in the United States. Women experience anxiety more frequently than men, but anyone can develop anxiety regardless of sex, age, race, or genetics. Depending on the type and severity, anxiety may significantly affect everyday life for those experiencing the symptoms as well as those around them. Read on to learn more about how you can help someone with anxiety. 

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Support a person who needs help

Your approach matters. Think about who you are approaching and what your relationship is to that person. The way you approach a family member may be different than a friend or coworker. It will determine how receptive they may be and how empathetic you can be for them. Be sure to recognize their feelings and whether they’re being open or defensive. 

Ask questions and listen. Ask how they are feeling. Most of the time people will try to make you believe they are fine even when they are not because they are afraid of getting help. Ask again and comfort them. Let them know you are there for them by being a good listener.

Share resources. Refer them to a medical professional who specializes in treating patients with signs of anxiety. A physician or therapist can help. Alternative methods, such as TMS (transcranial Magnetic Stimulation) therapy, may also be an option for your loved one looking to treat anxiety caused by depression. 

Follow up. After you sit down and talk, follow up on the conversation to see if they have used the medical resources or any advice received. If not, remind them that you are there for them and encourage them to seek treatment and get the help they need.

 

The importance of seeking professional help

Knowing how to help someone with anxiety is important for initiating proper care and ultimately reducing anxiety symptoms. The most important first step in dealing with anxiety is to seek professional help. Without a systematic clinical evaluation by a mental health professional, it can be challenging to identify the best strategy for overcoming someone’s unique experience with anxiety. Proper diagnosis and exploration of therapeutic options is vital to effectively combat the disorder.

A therapist can help determine what types of treatment is most appropriate and most likely to help the patient achieve specific desired outcomes. Pharmaceutical drugs are often used for anxiety. While these medications can often help minimize one’s anxiety, there potentially are some downsides. For instance, any effectiveness may be short-lived. More importantly, drugs for anxiety are plagued by safety issues and unwanted side effects.

Identifying a therapist who is knowledgeable about the latest research and relevant innovations in anxiety treatment methods can help improve the chances of overcoming some of anxiety’s debilitating symptoms. Not all treatments work the same way for everyone, so finding the right treatment for someone with anxiety is a task that can only be accomplished with the help of a medical professional. 

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TMS therapy to treat depression-induced anxiety

Some patients who suffer from depression also have significant anxiety symptoms.  TMS therapy is an excellent treatment option for these patients. It works by non-invasively transmitting electromagnetic stimulation into the portion of your brain that controls your mood. TMS therapy has been successfully used as a treatment for depression for years, and has been associated to also reduce the symptoms of anxiety that arise from depression. What’s so great about TMS is the fact that it’s FDA cleared, medication-free, painless and leaves no side effects. Plus, it’s covered by most major insurance companies, Medicare and Tricare. 

This blog post is meant to be educational in nature and does not replace the advice of a medical professional. See full disclaimer. 

Works Cited

John Hopkins Medicine. (n.d.). How to Help Someone With Anxiety. Retrieved July 28, 2020, from https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/treatment-tests-and-therapies/how-to-help-someone-with-anxiety

Jovanovic, T. (2019, November 12). Anxiety ” What Is Anxiety? Signs, Causes, Symptoms. Retrieved from https://www.anxiety.org/what-is-anxiety

NIH Medline Plus. (2019, November 20). How to Help Someone With Anxiety. Retrieved July 28, 2020, from https://magazine.medlineplus.gov/article/how-to-help-someone-with-anxiety

How to Help Someone with Depression

We all know someone with depression. You may not be aware that they are struggling with depression, however. With over 300 million adults and children struggling with depression worldwide, it is almost a certainty that someone you know has depression. It may feel difficult to know how to help someone with depression – especially if you are someone who has not experienced depression yourself. First, here are some signs to look for in others that may give you an indication that they are struggling with depression:

  • seem sad or appearing tearful
  • appear more pessimistic than usual or hopeless about the future
  • talk about feeling guilty, empty, or worthless
  • seem less interested in spending time together or communicate less frequently than they normally would
  • get upset easily or are unusually irritable
  • have less energy, move slowly, or seem generally listless
  • have less interest in their appearance than usual or neglect basic hygiene, such as showering and brushing their teeth
  • have trouble sleeping or sleep much more than usual
  • care less about their usual activities and interests
  • seem forgetful or have trouble concentrating or deciding on things
  • eat more or less than usual
  • talk about death or suicide

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While some of these signs can be indicative of typical mood shifts, for some people it may mean something more serious is going on. If you do notice any of these changes in your friends or family, or an increase from their normal baseline behavior, there are multiple ways to address this in a helpful way. 

First, asking questions and engaging in active listening can be a great way to get someone to talk about a potentially difficult topic. Asking directly how someone has been doing, or saying that you have noticed some different behaviors can feel uncomfortable. However, this may give them the opportunity they need to share how they are actually doing and what they are feeling. After asking a direct question, it can be helpful to do more listening than question asking. Active listening can mean you summarize what someone is saying and repeat it back to them to indicate you hear them and understand what they are trying to convey. 

Another specific question to ask is how you can directly support them, or what they are needing. It would not be unusual for someone to say “they don’t know”. In this instance, you can offer up some assistance that you are able to provide for them. Helping them find support if you cannot provide it is also beneficial. Support can look different for each person; support can be scheduling time to talk and check-in with them, connecting them with therapy or therapeutic resources, or offering to assist them with any basic needs such as chores or food. 

Taking the initiative to learn more about what depression is on your own, especially if this is not something you personally struggle with, can be helpful, although less directly. If you can learn more about how someone dealing with depression may be thinking, feeling, and functioning, it can feel more intuitive to ask more appropriate questions and offer more helpful support. Besides, constantly bombarding someone struggling with depression with specifics on how they are feeling can be triggering or exhausting. Some level of sharing may be helpful for your loved one, but if they have to feel like they need to teach or explain to you what they are going through, it can potentially bring up more feelings of shame or guilt for experiencing depression. 

(Trigger Warning: Suicide) Sometimes, depression can bring up thoughts of death and suicide. It is important to note that there is a difference between thinking about your own death and having active thoughts of suicide. Thinking about death can be a generally normal thought; having thoughts of not wanting to live any longer and planning on attempting and completing suicide, is not. Also, there is a misconception that talking about suicide will bring up those thoughts more for someone, or that it will give someone an idea. This is very likely not the case. Chances are, some suicidal thoughts have already been there. It is okay to ask if they are having thoughts of suicide and to allow them to share what they are willing to share. If they have active suicidal thoughts, discuss going with them to an emergency department to be evaluated, or reaching out to seek therapy. 

When someone is suffering from depression, it can be very difficult to ask and receive help during this time. Continue to reach out consistently, but without being overwhelming or bombarding. It may be more helpful than you know to have someone consistently showing up for them when they are finding it difficult to show up for themselves. 

This blog post is meant to be educational in nature and does not replace the advice of a medical professional. See full disclaimer. 

Works Cited

Raypole, C. (2020b, February 11). How to Help a Depressed Friend. Retrieved April 8, 2020, from https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-help-a-depressed-friend

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How To Tell if Someone is Depressed

Despite the fact that depression is the most common mental illness, it can in fact be difficult to tell if someone is depressed. How someone experiences depression can vary, and can depend upon factors such as social upbringing, environment, and personality. Some may experience many signs and symptoms of depression, but not be acting or behaving in a way that is consistent with how they are truly feeling. This may not always be the case, though. Here are some signs to look for in yourself or loved ones that tell if they have depression. 

Some signs a friend is depressed can be that they seem to have a more hopeless outlook on life. Whether that is through how and what they communicate to you, or their actions. This could look specifically like not talking about or addressing the future, indicating that there is limited or nothing good in their life, or actively not taking care of themselves. Hygiene may suffer in some people with depression. It can feel hard to take time to tend to basic needs if there is little hope for the future. If you are able to actively listen to someone who you suspect may be suffering from depression, look for feelings of guilt, self-hatred, or worthlessness. 

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Depression also leads you to find little to no pleasure in activities you once enjoyed. If you notice friends or loved ones avoiding or appearing displeased doing things that once was fun and engaging, this could be a sign of depression. Depression can feel so physically and emotionally draining, that even things someone loves can feel unbearable. Another area where someone may lose interest in is sex; sex drive and desire can be decreased if someone has a depressive episode. 

Increased fatigue, difficulty getting out of bed, or spending most of the day sleeping can be an indication of depression. This could look like someone showing up late for school or work because of oversleeping or feeling like they can’t get out of bed. They could be falling asleep in class, during meetings, or at points throughout the day. Depression is also linked with insomnia, as one might lead to the other and vice versa. Also, if there is a lack of quality, restful sleep, this could also lead to the presence of, or increased, anxiety. 

Depression can also lead to physical sensations and behaviors that impact someone’s weight. Some may experience lack of appetite, eat less, and end up losing some weight. Others may eat more than they usually do to find some fleeting feelings of pleasure or due to an increased appetite, which could lead to gaining some weight. If there are changes in someone’s body as a result of depression, this could impact body image. Negative body image, through any change in the body, can have a negative impact on mood as well. 

While thinking about death on a broader scale can be normal, thinking about your death in more specific detail can be worrisome. It is quite common with depression to have suicidal thinking. Suicidal thinking can range from thinking about death to actively planning ways to die. If you hear friends or family discussing any topic around death, especially in conjunction with other depressive symptoms, it may be a sign of depression. It may be uncomfortable for people to address suicidal thinking to someone who they suspect to be depressed. However, it is helpful to note that you bringing this up, will almost surely not be the first time they have thought about depression. It is highly unlikely that you will “plant the seed” for talking about suicide. The pain and agony that depression can bring, unfortunately, can lead to suicide. Here are a few specific things to look for that may indicate your loved one has had more active thoughts about suicide: 

  • Acting recklessly, as if they have a death wish (e.g. speeding through red lights)
  • Calling or visiting people to say goodbye
  • Getting affairs in order (giving away prized possessions, tying up loose ends)
  • Comments such as “Everyone would be better off without me” or “I want out”
  • Mood changes, i.e., being extremely depressed to acting calm and happy

Some people may also not exhibit any of these signs to indicate suicidal thinking. That is why even when you suspect other depressive symptoms, it is still okay to ask if they are thinking about suicide. While it may feel uncomfortable in the moment, it is likely coming from a place of kindness and compassion. Another important factor to remember, is that you don’t need to understand how they feel exactly. If you don’t talk and just listen, this may all your loved one needs to feel heard and find strength to continue to fight the depression. 

Treating Depression With No Side Effects

When it comes to depression treatment, many people feel they don’t want to take medications for it because of the multiple negative side effects some of those medications can present. Good news is there are ways to treat depression without medication, such as psychotherapy and TMS therapy. 

TMS therapy is highly recommended when medications and psychotherapy are not being effective. It is a non-invasive, outpatient based, brain stimulation treatment that places magnetic coils on the forehead. These coils send targeted magnetic impulses that stimulate nerve cells in the prefrontal cortex, specifically the left prefrontal cortex, as this area is often responsible for controlling mood. Research and clinical trials show that these impulses have a positive impact on neurotransmitters in the brain that ultimately decrease symptoms of depression and anxiety caused by depression for an extended period of time. TMS therapy is not only side-effect free, but it’s also pain-free, covered by most insurance, and FDA cleared. 

This blog post is meant to be educational in nature and does not replace the advice of a medical professional. See full disclaimer. 

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American Psychological Association. (n.d.). Depression. Retrieved April 10, 2020, from https://www.apa.org/topics/depression/

Depression Symptoms and Warning Signs. (2020, April 6). Retrieved April 10, 2020, from https://www.helpguide.org/articles/depression/depression-symptoms-and-warning-signs.htm

The Healthline Editorial Team. (2019, March 21). Signs of Depression. Retrieved April 10, 2020, from https://www.healthline.com/health/depression/recognizing-symptoms

Living with Someone with Bipolar Disorder

Bipolar disorder is a difficult condition to live with, but when it’s well-managed it presents no barriers to good relationships. Uncontrolled bipolar disorder is another story. The extreme highs and lows associated with bipolar disorder can prove disruptive to even the strongest of bonds. The lack of stability in a person’s mood and the significant  alterations in a person’s behavior can be devastating to a relationship. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V-P1YmHEA4EBipolar disorder consists of periods of normal functioning, divided by phases of depression, mania, or mixed episodes

  • Mania. Manic episodes lead to a bipolar spouse or partner becoming easily irritable and quickly angered. The false euphoria may boost risk-taking behaviors, wildly excessive spending, binge drinking and more dangerous behaviors with long-lasting consequences. For example, a person experiencing a manic episode can easily blow a family’s savings.
  • Depression. In the depressed phase, a person will feel intensely sad and may become very withdrawn and uncommunicative. They’ll usually lose interest in spending time with their spouse and their sex drive will decrease. This is easy to misinterpret as rejection.
  • Mixed Episodes. During a mixed episode, a person with bipolar disorder may have symptoms of mania or hypomania and depression at the same time. This may be confusing or stressful for their partner, who may not know what kind of reaction to expect.

Typically, a person with bipolar will spend weeks to months in a fairly stable mood, with depressive episodes interspersed throughout. Some people however are “rapid cyclers” and will go through at least 4 full phases of mania and depression a year.

How to Live With a Bipolar Spouse

When a bipolar person is in an average mood, everything goes along normally. When a person’s bipolar disorder is well-managed with medicine and therapy, their moods are much the same as anyone else’s. If your bipolar husband or wife stops taking their medication, the disorder will show up as a rapid, severe mood shift.  Your loved one may seem like a stranger during a severe depressed or manic phase. 

It takes a structured and methodical approach to prevent a bipolar marriage breakdown, but it’s possible. Consider the following steps to keeping your sanity when living with someone with bipolar disorder.

  1. Get the facts about bipolar disorder. Bipolar disorder is a complex illness. The more you know about it, the less frightening and confusing it’ll be.
  2. Get into therapy. You need professional support when living with a bipolar spouse. People typically experience many powerful emotions, like anger toward a bipolar spouse, frustration, sadness and disappointment. 
  3. Take care of yourself. The very first step in living with a bipolar spouse or partner is to take care of yourself. Don’t neglect yourself for one moment. The disorder is exhausting for everyone, and too many spouses of bipolar people run themselves into the ground. Remember, you’re not responsible for your spouse’s mental health. You’re a partner in their psychological well-being, but you cannot be responsible for anyone’s mental health but your own.
  4. Establish healthy separation. Avoid codependency. Your bipolar husband or bipolar wife has a mental illness. Many people compound the problem by making their own happiness dependent on how happy or stable their partner is. When you’re living with a bipolar spouse, you must learn to enjoy life on your own terms.
  5. Set boundaries. Bipolar people may invade boundaries and push limits, primarily in their manic phase. You have to keep all boundaries firm.  People in manic phases will challenge them.
  6. Be proactive when setting safeguards. It’s important to do things like establishing separate bank accounts
  7. Develop a support system. Your family and friends can provide you with essential support. Don’t cut yourself off from others. It’s important that you feel supported, too.
  8. Insist on medication compliance. It’s likely your spouse will need medications to control their bipolar disorder. Insist that they take them exactly as their physician prescribed, with no changes, every day. Getting the benefit from psychiatric medication requires taking it regularly, without skipping doses.
  9. Keep the lines of communication open. Keep talking to your partner. Ask them what they need from you and let them know your needs.
  10. Be kind to yourself. Living with a bipolar partner is challenging. You deserve good treatment, too.

This blog post is meant to be educational in nature and does not replace the advice of a medical professional. See full disclaimer. 

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Works Cited

Barrios, C., Chaudhry, T. A., & Goodnick, P. J. (2001, December). Rapid cycling bipolar disorder. Retrieved from https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/11825328

Bipolar Disorder. (n.d.). Retrieved April 8, 2020, from https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/bipolar-disorder/index.shtml

How to Help a Friend with Depression

Depression is a serious but treatable condition that affects millions of people throughout the nation every year. Chances are someone you know has struggled with depression. It’s a difficult disorder to live with for many reasons, not the least of which is its isolating nature. People with depression tend to withdraw from others, while at the same time needing human contact more than ever. Helping a friend with depression isn’t hard, but it’s important to know how to go about it. If you’d like to help a person with depression feel better, there are lots of things you can do to help. Here’s what you should do to help a friend with depression.

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Educate yourself about depression. It’s a complex disorder with several types and subtypes, and it may show different symptoms from person to person.  It’s far from merely being sad. A person with depression may become unusually irritable or moody. Some days they might seem like themselves while other days they may become withdrawn. Remember, a person with depression can’t snap themselves out of it. It’s a medical condition that can improve through treatment, but no one can simply take it away.

Be there. Being present, physically and emotionally, means a lot. Loneliness is always a part of depression, even though people self-isolate. Ask your friend if you can come over to visit. It doesn’t take an occasion or big-time production. You may have to be persistent. People with depression often feel like they’re a tremendous burden to others even though they’re not. Intense feelings of guilt are common in depression.

Ask questions and be ready to listen. It’s best to follow a statement up with an open-ended question like “You’ve seemed down lately. What’s been going on?” 

Avoid giving advice. Stay out of problem-solving mode when you talk to a depressed friend. When helping a friend with depression, it’s tempting to try to help them by fixing things. Depression is a physical disorder that leads to disordered emotions and thoughts—essentially, a person cannot be talked back into good health. However, interacting with a caring friend is enormously beneficial. Remember that depression isn’t caused by a distinct problem in a person’s life, and while it’s tempting to try to help “fix” your friend’s situation, that’s not helpful. Be present and ready to listen

Listen, but don’t judge. Value their unique experience by not comparing it to someone else’s experience. Telling your friend about someone else you know who went through the same thing just doesn’t help.

Encourage them. Encourage them to get the help they need, if they are not in therapy. It’s a good idea to have some resources at hand, like phone numbers of local therapists or contact information for support groups. Encourage them to stay on their medications and stay in therapy. Beating depression is a marathon, not a sprint.

Let them know you care. Invite them to gatherings or one on one outings, but keep things loose. People with depression often find it challenging to go out until their symptoms are well-controlled.

Be patient. Given that there’s still a stigma concerning mental health issues, it’s often hard for people to open up about their mental health. Some people have an easier time talking about their emotions than others. Also, be aware that recovery from progression isn’t a straight line. There will be setbacks. 

Warning Signs of Suicide

If you believe a friend is thinking about suicide, ask them if they’ve thought about it. Typically, if a person has thought of a way to kill themselves and they have access to the means of suicide they’ve thought about, the situation has become urgent and intervention needs to happen immediately.

Depression elevates a person’s risk of self-harm or suicide. These are some common signs someone is having suicidal thoughts:

  • Talking about suicide or wishing they were dead
  • Statements about having no desire to go on living or having nothing to live for
  • Talking about needing to find a way out
  • Dangerous behavior, or an increase in risky behavior especially if it’s new or uncharacteristic
  • Extreme mood swings—an unusually elevated mood can be a sign of suicidal thinking as well as a depressed mood. People who are suffering from mania may kill themselves on an impulse.
  • Purchasing a weapon, usually, a firearm
  • Increased substance use
  • Elevated self-isolation and withdrawal, pushing friends and loved ones away
  • Giving away their favorite possessions, pets, or other belongings

If you think a friend has suicide on their mind, encourage them to call a helpline or their therapist. Stay with them while they call, or ask if you can call for them. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is at 1-800-273-8255.

This blog post is meant to be educational in nature and does not replace the advice of a medical professional. See full disclaimer. 

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Prevalence of Depression Among Adults Aged 20 and Over: United States, 2013–2016 Number 303 – February 2018. (2018, February 13). Retrieved from https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db303.htm

Risk Factors and Warning Signs. (2018, November 14). Retrieved April 10, 2020, from https://afsp.org/about-suicide/risk-factors-and-warning-signs/

How To Tell Someone You Are Depressed

Depression is one of the most common psychological disorders, but that doesn’t make it any less devastating or scary. Living with depression can be isolating and reaching out to others can provoke feelings of anxiety or even fear. Many people still feel embarrassed about having depression. Even though the stigma attached to mental illness has lessened, it’s still hard for people to disclose that they’re living with a taxing psychological disorder. It’s a scary choice. To reach out and get the help we need, we have to risk disclosure. 

However, it’s a risk worth taking. Talking about your depression with a trusted person is associated with better recovery outcomes. Getting social support from people you know is one of the most helpful ways to break the shell of isolation depression builds up. If you’ve asked yourself how to tell someone you’re depressed, here are a few things to consider when preparing to have that important conversation.

Choose who to talk to about your depression.  The first item to think about is who you’d like to share with. You don’t have to tell everyone you know and it’s a good idea to choose someone who is a good listener and trustworthy. A person you trust who is nonjudgmental and supportive makes for an excellent choice. Telling a friend or family member about your depression is the first step on the road to healing.

Write down what you want to say. You don’t have to get it all down word for word, but the process of writing down your thoughts helps organize them. It can be helpful to rehearse what you want to say, as well. 

Pick a time and situation. It’s best to aim for a casual situation where you are not likely to be interrupted. This is an important conversation to have and an off-the-cuff, spontaneous approach probably won’t give you the results you need. Avoid times you know to be busy or that would be too brief, in case a longer conversation follows.

Keep an open mind about reactions. Unless a person has had some experience with depression, they may insist you have nothing to be depressed about. They may offer advice or try to fix your situation, which isn’t helpful. Others might lack any useful context in which to respond. The important thing is that you reach out and let someone know what’s going on with you. If you don’t get the response you need, choose someone else and try again.

Don’t stress yourself out. Building a social support network starts with letting someone know you’re depressed. Making the effort itself is helpful in your fight against depression. You don’t have to meet any standard but your own in talking to friends about depression.

Seek professional help. Getting into psychotherapy is essential to recovery from depression. Having a psychotherapist gives you access to a trustworthy safe person who can help you process your emotions and experiences. Psychotherapists are highly-trained experts who can help you:

  • Better understand depression
  • Reduce or eliminate your symptoms of depression
  • Learn better coping skills to handle stress better
  • Build new, healthier habits and behaviors
  • Develop better relationships with other people
  • Learn to be less stressed and more relaxed

You can also try alternative therapies, such as TMS. TMS stands for Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation, and it’s an FDA cleared, non-invasive treatment for depression that sends magnetic pulses to stimulate the nerves in your prefrontal cortex, which is linked to having an impact on mood. These repetitive magnetic impulses are produced by coils placed onto your forehead. The impulses are shown to have an impact on neurotransmitters in the brain to reduce depression symptoms. What’s great about TMS is it’s actually pain-free and side-effect-free! Plus, it’s covered by most insurance.

Start by reaching out and asking for help. Talking to someone about your depression doesn’t have to be hard. Opening up is a great way to begin your recovery journey and ultimately achieve a happier, healthier life. 

This blog post is meant to be educational in nature and does not replace the advice of a medical professional. See full disclaimer. 

Works Cited

Understanding Psychotherapy. (n.d.). Retrieved April 10, 2020, from https://www.apa.org/helpcenter/understanding-psychotherapy

How to Deal with Anxiety and Depression

Learning to cope with anxiety and depression can be one of the most difficult, but necessary tasks that someone can take on. It is not uncommon for people to say that “anxiety and depression are taking over their life”, “my life is over”, or  “anxiety is ruining my life”. And, in a lot of ways, that could feel very true. Anxiety and depression can be completely overwhelming and debilitating. Fortunately, despite the strong sense that depression and anxiety are ruining your life, they are both treatable mental illnesses. 

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First, it may help to understand what typical anxiety and depressive episodes can look like. Common anxiety symptoms include:

  • Feeling nervous, irritable or on edge
  • Having a sense of impending danger, panic or doom
  • Having an increased heart rate
  • Breathing rapidly, sweating, and/or trembling
  • Feeling weak or tired
  • Difficulty concentrating 
  • Having trouble sleeping
  • Experiencing gastrointestinal problems

Common depressive episode symptoms include:

  • Persistent sad, anxious or “empty” mood
  • Feelings of hopelessness, pessimism
  • Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, helplessness
  • Loss of interest or pleasure in hobbies and activities, including sex
  • Decreased energy, fatigue, feeling “slowed down”
  • Difficulty concentrating, remembering, making decisions
  • Insomnia, early-morning awakening, or oversleeping
  • Low appetite and weight loss or overeating and weight gain
  • Thoughts of death or suicide, suicide attempts
  • Restlessness, irritability
  • Persistent physical symptoms that do not respond to treatment, such as headaches, digestive disorders and pain for which no other cause can be diagnosed.

While a lot of these symptoms can seem overwhelming, and make sense why people would feel like anxiety and depression are ruining their lives, there are many ways to cope with and treat anxiety and depression. Since anxiety and depression are some of the most common mental illnesses, there are a lot of treatments and coping skills available for people to use. However, an even more helpful step than before treatment can be the recognition and acknowledgement that you or a loved one may be struggling with anxiety or depression. Learning skills and seeking help and support can come next.

Mindfulness skills are a great tool to help calm your mind and body when experiencing anxiety and stress. Try these when you’re feeling anxious or stressed: taking deep breaths, counting to ten slowly, and accepting that there will be things that you cannot control. Another great grounding skill is to access your surroundings utilizing all 5 senses. Grounding skills are tactics you can use to help distance yourself from painful emotions, back into the present from a flashback, and into your body more fully. There are numerous grounding skills, and it is important to find which ones work best for you. Some people find mental grounding skills to be preferable over physical grounding skills. 

Examples of physical grounding skills include deep breathing, putting hands in cool or warm water to notice the change in temperature and sensation, touching and describing objects around you, utilizing scent to calm you, and stretching your body and tuning in to how that feels. Exercise can be a great outlet for stress and anxiety, as well as a mood booster. Some studies say that in order to get the best benefits from exercise, try to include at least 2½ hours of moderate-intensity physical activity (e.g. brisk walking) each week, 1¼ hours of a vigorous-intensity activity (such as jogging or swimming laps), or a combination of the two. Regardless of the amount of time you put into exercise, moving the body is what will help with anxiety and mood. It is also very important to engage in forms of exercise that are enjoyable to you. If you are doing a workout that feels painful or unenjoyable, this is not likely to have a positive impact on your mood, stress levels, or body. 

Distraction can be a helpful temporary skill in how to cope with anxiety and depression.  Distraction techniques can be taking your mind off of the current situation with music, events, activities, etc. While they can be helpful in the moment, if you are experiencing severe anxiety or depression, this may be less helpful. If there is no follow up in terms of addressing the feelings that you experienced to deploy the distraction, then there will likely be little long term change in mood or anxiety. It can also be incredibly beneficial to get involved in your community. This gives you an opportunity to connect with a mission and message that you support, as well as gives you a break from your normal routine, and potential chance to create new support systems. 

Overall, how to deal with anxiety and depression is a long term practice. Overcoming depression and anxiety can include therapy, medication, non-medication interventions, alternative therapies and social connectedness. Make sure to give yourself time and space to help yourself recover if you are living with anxiety and depression. 

Treating Depression With TMS Therapy

One specific treatment for depression that is highly effective and produces no side effects is Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation or TMS therapy. This is a non-invasive brain stimulation therapy that targets the prefrontal cortex with magnetic pulses. These impulses stimulate nerve cells in the prefrontal cortex, as this area is often responsible for controlling mood. Research and clinical trials show that these impulses impact neurotransmitters in the brain and decrease symptoms of depression for an extended period of time. This is an FDA cleared, non-invasive pain-free solution that is covered by most major insurance companies. 

This blog post is meant to be educational in nature and does not replace the advice of a medical professional. See full disclaimer. 

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Anxiety and Depression Association of America. (n.d.). Tips | Anxiety and Depression Association of America, ADAA. Retrieved April 3, 2020, from https://adaa.org/tips

Anxiety and Depression Association of America. (n.d.-a). Symptoms | Anxiety and Depression Association of America, ADAA. Retrieved April 3, 2020, from https://adaa.org/understanding-anxiety/generalized-anxiety-disorder-gad/symptoms

Raypole, C. (2020, February 11). 30 Grounding Techniques to Quiet Distressing Thoughts. Retrieved April 3, 2020, from https://www.healthline.com/health/grounding-techniques#physical-techniques

How PTSD Symptoms Vary in Men and Women

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is a long-standing, debilitating mental health disruption that occurs after experiencing or witnessing a traumatic event. PTSD has the clinical term “disorder” in it, which can be misleading. Having a trauma response to an event that is potentially life threatening, or has caused harm to you or others, is a normal physiological reaction. We are supposed to be on high alert in order for survival. There is nothing “disordered” about it, except for how it impacts your life after the event is over. 

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What events contribute to the development of PTSD may vary, as what someone may consider trauma and have a significant reaction to, others may recover from more easily. Examples of trauma can include: accidents, sudden deaths, physical violence, sexual violence, childhood abuse, war, genocide, natural disaster, terrorism, and generally anything that may put someone’s physical and emotional safety at risk. Signs and symptoms of PTSD include:

  • Intrusive thoughts or flashbacks of the traumatic event
  • Avoiding reminders of the traumatic event
  • Negative thoughts and feelings about self or others
  • Arousal and reactive symptoms such as irritability, anger, reckless or self-destructive behaviors, startle response, difficulty concentrating or sleeping. 

Intrusive thoughts are repeated, involuntary memories of the trauma. Someone may also experience distressing dreams or flashbacks of the traumatic event. Flashbacks of the trauma have the potential to be so vivid and realistic, that people feel they are re-living the traumatic experience or seeing it before their eyes. Often, people will avoid reminders of the traumatic event. This can include avoiding people, places, activities, objects and situations that bring on distressing memories. People may try to avoid remembering or thinking about the traumatic event, or even talking about what happened or how they feel about it. Negative thoughts and feelings may include ongoing and distorted beliefs about oneself or others (e.g., “I am bad,” “No one can be trusted”); ongoing fear, horror, anger, guilt or shame; much less interest in activities previously enjoyed; or feeling detached or estranged from others.

Women are diagnosed with PTSD as twice as often as men – 10% of women are likely to experience PTSD after a trauma versus 4% of men. Statistics say that men are more likely to experience trauma, however, are less likely to have a long standing reaction to the trauma. This could be due to reporting inconsistencies in men versus women, or that diagnostic criteria may skew towards women as culturally, women are more “allowed” to express uncomfortable emotions. Men may be more likely to experience physical trauma such as car accidents and war. Women are more likely to experience sexual assault, childhood abuse, sudden loss of a loved one, etc. Other reasons that women might get PTSD more often than men include that women are more likely to experience sexual assault. Sexual assault is more likely to cause PTSD than many other events. And, women may be more likely than men to blame themselves for their trauma experiences.

While men and women alike can experience any and all identified symptoms of PTSD, women may experience PTSD differently from men. PTSD symptoms in women can be: more likely than men to be easily startled, have more trouble feeling emotions (experiencing significant “numbness”), avoid things that remind them of the trauma, and feel depressed and anxious. PTSD symptoms in men are: more likely to feel anger and have trouble controlling their anger than women, and more likely to have problems with alcohol or drugs as a result of trauma. PTSD in men and women can lead to the development of physical health problems, as well. Women usually experience PTSD symptoms for a longer period of time than men. Statistics show that women can experience symptoms for an average of 4 years versus 1 year for men, before diagnosis and treatment. 

It’s also important to note that gender non-binary, gender fluid, or gender non-conforming people also experience high rates of PTSD. They may experience more traumatic experiences, including discrimination, as a result of their gender identity. More research needs to be done on the impacts and symptom expression of non-binary/gender non-conforming individuals.

Trauma does not discriminate against gender. It is equally important that men, women, and gender non-conforming people have their trauma taken seriously. Access to resources to ensure that their mental health is taken care of after extremely distressing events is critically important to a full recovery of PTSD. 

This blog post is meant to be educational in nature and does not replace the advice of a medical professional. See full disclaimer. 

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American Psychiatric Association. (n.d.-e). What Is Posttraumatic Stress Disorder? Retrieved March 31, 2020, from https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/ptsd/what-is-ptsd

U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs. (n.d.). VA.gov | Veterans Affairs. Retrieved April 1, 2020, from https://www.ptsd.va.gov/understand/common/common_adults.asp

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How to Know if You or a Loved One Is Faking Mental Illness

The presence, or potential presence, of mental illness should not be taken lightly. It is likely that a mental illness, while common, may require professional help in order to improve. It is important to note that a mental illness is different than having mental health concerns. Everyone can have periods of their life where their mental health is not good. We may feel more anxious, have a lower mood, but typically, you can return to a baseline of functioning not too long after. A mental illness typically is a series of symptoms that present for an extended period of time that has significant impact in your daily functioning, including work and family. That being said, it is still possible to fake, or exaggerate, mental illness. 

In general, it is very hard to tell if someone is faking mental illness. Even trained professionals may not be able to tell right away if someone is faking or exaggerating mental illness symptoms. If someone is faking symptoms of a mental illness, that in itself may be an indication there is some underlying mental illness or a request for help. If the severity of the portrayed mental illness is high and having significant impacts in their life, someone could qualify for a diagnosis of personality disorders or Factitious Disorder. Factitious Disorder is a mental illness that someone is knowingly deceiving others by creating illness or ailments, physically and/or psychologically, but may not know the underlying reason why. Personality disorders are ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving that deviates from the expectations of their culture, causes distress or problems functioning, and lasts over time. There are multiple different types of personality disorder diagnoses and significant psychological evaluation can help determine if a particular diagnosis is present.

There may not be any tell tale signs to indicate that someone is faking mental illness or not. Professionals may need an extended period of time working and evaluating someone to be able to recognize fake versus legitimate symptoms. However, some indications of faking mental illness can include exaggerating any existing symptoms, making up medical or psychological histories, causing self-harm, tampering with medical tests, or malingering. Malingering has a different motivation; malingering is a deliberate creation of illness or disability in order to achieve a particular outcome. There is intention behind it, whereas a diagnosis of Factitious Disorder likely has less of an external motivating factor. 

Overall, however, it can be harmful to assume that someone is faking mental illness. Motivation as to why someone may choose to fake mental illness can vary. These motivations may include, but are not limited to, jealousy, low self-esteem, and loneliness. There is an unfortunate term in the mental health world, “attention seeking”, that has a negative connotation. When someone engages in behaviors or actions that require attention or help, it can be seen as desperate, annoying, or dramatic. However, it is critical to consider why someone may be engaging in these behaviors. There may very well be a legitimate reason for this behavior; people may be needing admiration, social connectedness, or love.

Often, our own self-talk can make us believe we are making up our struggles, or unnecessarily over-amplifying them. This is significantly different than deliberately creating mental illness symptoms. If you are noticing thoughts around that you “shouldn’t” be feeling or acting a certain way, this could be an indication there is some presence of anxiety, depression, or other mental illness. Also, cultural messages around emotions and expression of emotions and mental health can amplify these thoughts. Too often, we are told we should minimize expression of emotions, particularly uncomfortable ones such as sadness, anger, or fear. These messages lead us to believe that our emotions are not valid, and therefore we think that any amount of feeling this way is too much, dramatic, and not okay. This can absolutely lead someone to believe that what they are experiencing is not real and they are only “seeking attention”. 

In any case, it can always be helpful to find an outlet for your mental health concerns. Whether it is medication, therapy, or your primary care provider, talking and sifting through what you are experiencing is beneficial. Feelings and thoughts are powerful, and talking through them can help you determine ways to cope and a course of action. 

This blog post is meant to be educational in nature and does not replace the advice of a medical professional. See full disclaimer. 

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American Psychiatric Association. (n.d.-b). What Are Personality Disorders? Retrieved April 3, 2020, from https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/personality-disorders/what-are-personality-disorders

Frothingham, S. (2020, February 28). What You Should Know About Attention-Seeking Behavior in Adults. Retrieved April 3, 2020, from https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/attention-seeking-behavior

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Mayo Clinic. (2019b, December 14). Factitious disorder – Symptoms and causes. Retrieved March 30, 2020, from https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/factitious-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20356028

American Psychiatric Association. (n.d.-b). What Is Mental Illness? Retrieved April 3, 2020, from https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/what-is-mental-illness